Unrequited. Such an eloquent word for such a horrible, horrible thing. Not so much on its own, but double team it with love and you've got a doozy.
Unrequited love can be hard to avoid. Feelings are feelings at the end of the day, and if you're not true to your heart then who are you kidding? But thats the thing. It can be hard to tell someone, and because you're worried about the consequences you keep it bottled up. And because you keep it bottled up you keep thinking about it. And because you keep thinking about it, it consumes your days. What i'm saying is unrequited love can destroy someone. Not just the person feeling it, but the person on the receiving end. Think about it; You tell someone how you feel, and they don't reciprocate the feeling. You go off into your own little world of despair, but think about them. They now don't know how to act around you. Are they overly nice to try and gloss over an embarrassing (for both of you) event in the friendship/short amount of time you've known them-ship? Do they try and keep their distance until the event has faded into memory? Whatever happens, the outcome is never good.
I'm not the first person to talk about this. It's been in music since forever, just listen to Damien Rice. Fantastic music. In a way, I think rejection and heartache can help a career. I mean, who wants to listen to a happy comedian? Heartache, difficult times, trials and tribulations, they're all things that can be expressed vividly and touchingly through words and sounds, so it's not all bad. At least if you get your heart broken, you might be able to make somebody laugh by telling them about it.
It might be someone you work with. It might be someone you go to university with. You might just see them in passing. You might see them all of the time. But at the end of the day, I think the best thing to do might be to leave it alone. Just leave it alone. I know it's easier said than done, but I think I can put forward a valid argument. For starters, if they've never given a sign that they feel the same way as you do, it's probably safe to assume that they don't hear the same Burt Bacharach song as you every time they see you. Next reason: They might be in a really good place. They might be seeing someone, and if you're a good friend, vomiting your feelings all over them might make things awkward for them and their partner, and might make the partner feel weird around you. Thirdly, and I think this might be a big one, is if they're an ex, let it go. There's a reason they're ex-boy/girlfriend and not boy/girlfriend. And that reason is probably still there, and though it might not be obvious, give it a week and those reasons will be knocking at your back door baying for blood. If your situation is three, take solace in the lyrics of Dallas Green:
'When you cry a piece of my heart dies, Knowing that I may have been the cause'.
Do you want to cause more tears?
Now, I'm probably a huge hypocrite because I never listen to anything I say, so if I get slapped with a restraining order in the next few days, know it's because I probably didn't read this. Hopefully though, I've helped someone who's read this, and maybe even annoyed someone by it so much that they thought 'Fuck Mathew Frost, what does he know?', went and told someone how they felt, and it worked out for them. That'd be nice, if it happens, get in touch. Thats all for now, but as a closer, I think Charlie Brown said it all about unrequited love:
'Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love'
Well said, Charlie Brown, well said